Every long term couple know the efforts that are required for lasting love. Relationships can ebb and flow, but it is important that you never forget how important your partner is to you. Here are 10 ways you can make your marriage stronger:
- Communicate Well, Communicate Often
If there is one piece of universal advice that could be successfully applied to any marriage, honest and sincere communication would be the lesson. To strengthen your marriage right now, all you have to do is talk to your partner about your own feelings, and ask them about theirs. Be open, and speak from the heart, and also learn to listen deeply too.
- Value Your Time Together
Situations can differ depending on a number of factors, but what is important is that you value the time that you have with your partner. When you are together you should make an effort. Don’t simply switch off, moan about your day, or switch TV on and have a nap. Speak to them. Have fun with them. Make the time interesting and enjoyable, and remember to bring them joy and not misery.
- Do You Still Date?
Courtship often begins with ample amount of dating, but after a while this initial enthusiasm can wear off. It is good to get out of the house as a couple every now and then. Get away from the environment that you live in, and leave the stress behind for a while. Wine, dine, and have a good time.
- Space And Privacy
All of the valuable time that you spent together should be finely balanced by a different sort of quality time; “me time.” Me time is extremely important for both you and your partner, and different people need it to varying degrees. Grant yourself and your partner this time, absolutely guilt free, and you will find it much easier to appreciate the times when you are together.
- Respect Each Other’s Life Choices
Do you respect your partner as an individual? You should, or why else would you be with them? You should therefore show an interest in their life choices, job, hobbies, and interests. Even if you do not share their interests, you should encourage them to express these sides of themselves.
- Don’t Forget The Compliments
“You look nice.” “I love the way you do that…” It really doesn’t take much to compliment your partner. Make them feel special. You do not have to be superficial or fake about this; simply be vocal when you think nice thoughts about them.
- Show Your Appreciation, Show Your Love
It can happen that you still love your partner, but in a marriage couples sometimes forget to show it. They feel it, but because they do not show it doubt can creep in. Everyone shows their appreciation in different ways; some through gift giving, some through physical affection, or verbal affection. Learn your partner’s “love language” and do not be afraid to speak your own.
- Check In With Your Partner
How often do you ask your partner how they feel? How often do you ask them if they are happy, and whether there is anything you can do to make them happier? A little more often can never hurt.
- Keep The Passion And Romance Alive
The early stages of a relationship are often characterized by passion and romance. Young and full of hormones, the rate of this ecstasy can rarely continue; it is simply not sustainable. That does not mean that you should not ignite that flame every now and again. Keep the passion burning, and keep the romance alive.
- Look After Yourself
You can only love other people if you can love yourself, as the saying goes. If you look after yourself you will be much more capable of giving fully and wholeheartedly to your partner. Take care of your health and your lifestyle. Balance your own life, and make sure you include your marriage as a big part of it.
If you need advice, or practical help with your marriage, please get in touch with trained and experienced counselors.